As an older woman, we assume that young women know what a man is thinking when he invites her to his hotel room. In light of Summer Zervos’ allegation that Donald Trump allegedly propositioned her in a bungalow at the Beverly Hills Hotel, it is obvious that not all women know what’s on a man’s mind when he asks you to come to his hotel room. So let me clearly and unequivocally state what a man is thinking about when he invites a woman to his hotel room … he is thinking about one thing and one thing only … how he is going to get you into his bed. No matter what else he says to you about mentoring, business, or whatever small talk is happening, he is trying to figure out what he has to do to get you into his bed. Now, if you are interested in the same thing, then fine, no problem. Two consenting adults can do whatever they please. However, if you are not interested in a sexual relationship, then do not go to his hotel room!

A related issue is alcohol consumption by young women. When socializing, it is extremely important to maintain you sobriety and composure. Why? Alcohol can cause you to lower your defenses. Alcohol impairs your ability to make good decisions. Therefore, if you are drinking and men are around, in your presence, know your limit. If you drink too much, chances are you will wake up somewhere with a man on top of you.

Business travel is a particularly sticky situation. You feel like you know the men that you work with every day. Why would a business trip change the working relationship between a woman and her male colleagues? In my experience, when a man is physically distanced from his wife, he considers himself a “bachelor.” I cannot say whether all men think this way, but some men absolutely do think this way. Way back in 2007, I began working on a job in an old building where the desks were extremely close to one another. The desks were so close to one another that if you extended your arm out to the side, you would touch your neighbor. My supervisor sat to the left of me. During my first week on the job, he volunteered that his wife was out-of-town and that he considered himself a “bachelor” because his wife was out-of-town. My response was “oh,” then I went right back to the discussion we were having about work.

When a woman starts a new job, the men will try to figure out who will get her first. They all try, and they are watching one another to see who is making progress. It’s a male thing. So ladies, when you start a new job and you’re impressed that there are so many nice men willing to help you, accept their help but know when and where to draw the line.


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